Below are the 9 most recent journal entries recorded in valentine662's InsaneJournal:

Friday, December 30th, 2011
12:03 pm	Do something every day that scares you This isn't some form of cruel and unusual self punishment. stop procrastinating There is a very valuable lesson to be learned from doing something that intentionally scares the shit out of you. For the few minutes of intense fear you feel, there can be a much longer lasting effect of confidence, energy and pride. For some of us with anxiety and panic disorders, just leaving the house to get the mail can strike fear in us. It's the everyday things most take for granted that leave panic and anxiety sufferers with a very isolated life. You need to take that first step. Overcoming your fears is uncomfortable, period. A large part of the process however, is taking baby steps out of your comfort zone. Giving in to your fears and letting your anxiety take control of your life is an all too common problem. When it comes down to it, people like us sufferer from "fearing fear. " We are afraid of the way we feel when the symptoms come on, and we'll do most things to avoid those unwanted feelings. Here are a few examples of things I have avoided in the past due to the sheer thought of having a panic/anxiety episode: procrastinating. 3) Weddings - They used to be horrible for me. It was incredibly difficult to endure an entire wedding, especially if I was in the wedding party. I even had to check into my hotel room during my own brother and sister-in-laws reception due to unbearable anxiety and fatigue. When I say "used to be horrible," I mean that they aren't nearly as bad anymore. The reason for this is because I was able to overcome my fears with a term called repeat exposure. Exposing yourself to the elements that cause your anxiety again and again over time will lessen the sensitivity of your anxious/panic symptoms. Much like building a tolerance to a medication or caffeine. I will go more into this in another section. Current Mood: productive (Comment on this)
Thursday, December 29th, 2011
9:46 pm	Bed Linens King Sized Wonders-Matching Comfort with Ultimate Luxury Good sleep is a prerequisite for good health and vitality, and nevertheless; bedroom accessories play a very important part in giving us the luxury of falling asleep! To start with bed linens items such as pillow covers, duvet covers, cotton and silk bed sheets, comforters and quilts are produced for providing great comfort and soothe our tired bodies. stop procrastinating Therefore, if you are smart enough to realize the value of bedroom linens, you will lead a better quality life. You can surf the internet for durable and good quality Egyptian cotton bed linens king sized ones. Nowadays bed linen products have become very affordable with manufacturers offering great variety in terms of materials, designs and lovely color combinations. Besides, there are numerous online discount sales and festive concessions. It is advisable to shop for fabrics that are made with high quality cotton materials that have long fibers for more durability. Best superior quality bed linens king can be easily purchased at online e stores, which offer great varieties and lowest prices. Some of them even offer custom made bed linens and specially order branded stuff for their customers. Luxurious bed linens can give color and character to your bedroom, so that this comfort zone looks really inviting and pleasant. Such sheer luxury can do wonders to spruce up your sleep quality. Similarly, over sized linens like California king comforter sets also guarantee long-lasting comfort and freshness to your bed collections. Bedroom accessories actually reflect your inner personality and individual tastes. Most household members do not get enough time to change their bed linen sets every single day, but replace them once in a week for maintaining hygiene. But, if time prevails; you should change bed covers and sheets as frequently as you can. People with skin allergies, sinusitis and bed wetting issues should change bed sets at least once in 2 days comfortzone. Choosing the right kind of bed accessories can be tricky and difficult. But, if you are hygiene conscious, love comfort and want your bedroom to look appealing; you have to pay more attention while buying bedding elements. You can go for over sized eiderdowns or quilts such as California king comforter sets , which will fit any kind of bed mattresses. Bed sheets and bed linens king sizes are much preferable than smaller ones, giving you more leg room and filling in your large bedroom space procrastinating. Current Mood: intimidated (Comment on this)
9:32 am	Steps To Ignite Your Money Making! I believe living a prosperous life is habitual from within. We each individually have a choice to train ourselves to become abundant in every area of our life, including money! How well have you ignited your -Money Making' thus far Well, take a look at your current results with money. How much is in your bank account today How many assets do you have Stocks, bonds, real estate etc. And most importantly, how prosperous do you feel about money Do you live in hope and possibility coupled with creativity that produces real tangible financial results consistently Or do you feel fear, lack, limitation, and extreme challenge when it comes to your money Perhaps this is your year to awaken to an entirely new financial level of you You see, the more money you have, the more you will be called into accountability of who you really are. My holistic approach to money teaches that the more you have, the more you have to give. With that said, I challenge you to practice wholeheartedly the following six financial tips for this year. I promise, if you make these teachings habitually through consistently committing to practicing them, you will evolve beyond your hearts desire in this next year with your abundance, not just financially, but in all areas of your life! The universe is sitting right next to you, right now, dying to give you what is in your hearts desire. However, what will you choose to do in this next year to prepare yourself to receive it High peak performers, the Wealthy & Successful make conscious decisions consistently about their ideal financial futures. stop procrastinating They are constantly breathing life into their future through writing possible and probable outcomes of what they would like to see unfold. Each day becomes an opportunity to step closer to living from their ideal future vision due to the conscious decisions they continued to make over time regarding it. In the year 2017, what will your net worth be How many properties will you own What will your investment portfolio look like What will your business look like How much passive income will you have per month Do you think if you spent time this year consistently making conscious decisions about your financial future ten years from now you would ignite your ability to achieve it and attract wonderful opportunities in that time period to help support you with you ideal future financial vision. The 5% that get the 95% of results with their money and every other area of their life that the 95% of others don't have trained themselves to prioritize becoming wealthy. comfortzone For most individuals, money brings up fear and a lot of negative emotion. Hence, they practice taking no action with their money. In order to ignite your financial results, you will need to make managing, investing, saving, and increasing your income with money a daily focus for at least 3% of each day. The language of wealth building will become a part of who you are and what you attract into your world each day. The enlightened financial folk are always working with teachers, coaches, experts, and guides to upgrade their wealthy and successful toolkit. They implicitly understand that the more I focus on working with other individuals whom can help me achieve my conscious decisions financially, the more effectively I will travel toward my ideal future vision and with a greater level of grace and support. Don't like your financial result today Ask yourself, how often have I sought out financial experts to work with How much have I actually ever spent on my financial education High peak performers budget for their financial education and do not scrimp on this expense, as it is one of the most important expenditures to be making if you are truly committed to achieving your conscious decisions about your financial future and it proves to the universe that you don't make wishes about your financial future, but you are in fact committed and this is a priority. Is financial education in your budget for 2008 If you desire new financial results, then you may want to rethink your budget! A financial teacher, expert, coach, guide, consultant can only give what the student is willing to receive. The more you choose to appreciate the financial experts efforts, the more they will be able to impart wisdom, knowledge, skills, and tools to you. How do you receive formalized education on this subject currently Is it with an open and joyous heart Or do you judge harshly and approach making positive shifts with your money skeptically How you bring yourself to the learning process will determine exactly how much you learn! You will need to cultivate an entire laundry list of relationships with these financial experts in order to achieve any significant new financial results that will in fact last you a lifetime, so challenge yourself to bring the best attitude you can toward your financial learning curve. You see, your attitude to learning will certainly determine your financial altitude. It is estimated that your financial net worth today is the average of your ten closest friends. You don't need to get rid of your current friends, you just need to make some new friends. Why So that you can expand your expectation level of what you think is possible when it comes to lifestyle and money. Who currently models success for you Who currently challenges you financially to step out of your comfort zones when it comes to money in your circle of influence What would happen if you had a few more of those individuals in your immediate world that you interacted with frequently Wealth and successful people have cultivated a lifetime of wealthy and successful friends and colleagues to share ideas, inspire, support, and enjoy the beautify of the journey together toward new financial results! In order to have new financial results, you and your life will need to be in a constant state of change. In essence, you will need to embrace your own financial evolution and transformation. I believe we are not here to be who we are; we are here to be more of who we are. When you commit to new financial results, you will oftentimes be stepping out of your current financial comfort zones, when you do, it will not always be comfortable. High peak performers train themselves to be comfortable being uncomfortable. They implicitly understand that when they are uncomfortable, especially with new financial action steps, this is an affirmation that new desired results are manifesting for themselves! Most individuals don't understand they have financial comfort zones and when they step out of them, they perceive challenge or their fears that arise as a sign they should do nothing. In actuality, this is the worst thing they could do, as it recommits them to the exact same financial result they currently have with no new wealth building knowledge, as they never took any new action. If you are out of your financial comfort zone, practicing new actions toward creating new financial results, affirm to yourself how exciting it is to be stepping closer and closer into your ideal financial future! In closing, I believe money reflects your innermost values and has the power to reveal you. Money is also about choices. The more money you have, the more positive choices you have. True financial wealth is a place of security and abundance, where you are financially free to stop working for a living and start living for your work - your life's work. Practice these six super financial tips consistently each day this year and watch yourself consistently stepping into all your heart desires! Current Mood: touched (Comment on this)
Wednesday, December 28th, 2011
7:16 pm	Combat Stress By Creating Your Own Oasis procrastinating Help your body and mind relax and increase your sense of well-being by creating a personalized comfort zone. Whether at home, work or when traveling, you can create your own oasis with these eight easy steps. Stress and anxiety can prematurely age our mind and body. If not dealt with effectively, chronic stress and worrying can place undue strain upon our cardiovascular and immune systems. It can also make us prone to mood disorders and negatively affect our cognitive functions. Having a safe and comfortable place where we can relax and unwind can help improve our well-being and produce feelings of peace and tranquility. Ideally, creating an atmosphere that induces calmness throughout your home is best. However, if space is limited, you still can create your own oasis, even if it is in only a corner of a room or in a cubical at work. Here are eight easy ways to make your personal space a true comfort zone. 1. Tranquil Sounds. Your favorite music, sound machines and water falls can help you relax and unwind. Sounds have the ability to alter our perceptions and instantly change your mood. 2. Living Plants. Live plants create a peaceful atmosphere. They improve the ambiance and air quality of indoor environments, and induce a positive energy around them. 3. Soft Lighting. Soft and adjustable lighting can create a soothing atmosphere. Look for light bulbs that are bright, but not harsh. Being able to adjust the brightness of your lighting will give you more control of the mood of your space comfortzone. 4. Pleasant Smells. A fresh and pleasant odor can transport you to a peaceful place and time. Open a window to get an exchange of air, use air purifiers or deodorizers to create the scent you find most pleasing. 5. Furniture Arrangement. Place your furniture and other items to best fit your daily needs and actions. Personalize your space with things that bestow happy memories. 6. Comfortable Textures. Use pillows, throws and soft materials to create a comfort zone. Our sense of touch has a powerful impact upon our feelings. 8. Answering Machine. When you need to unwind and revitalize, turn your answering machine on and the volume down. You can always return calls when you are recharged and ready to talk. Take control of your surroundings, whether they are just a corner of a room or a desk at work. You can even use these steps when traveling to help you unwind. By creating your own personal oasis, you will be better able to relax and rejuvenate. A few changes may be all that you need to make yourself calm, peaceful, energized and inspired. Monique N. Gilbert, B.Sc. is a Personal Health, Nutrition & Lifestyle Coach, Certified Personal Trainer/Fitness Counselor and Author. Monique's coaching helps people get healthy, manage stress, lose weight and keep it off. Go to www.MoniqueNGilbert.com to learn more about Monique's personal coaching program. Current Mood: crushed (Comment on this)
Tuesday, December 27th, 2011
11:29 pm	The Fast And Easy Weight To Lose Fat The market is awash with weight loss products that are marketed as the most efficient preparations with regard to losing weight. Similarly, there are numerous articles, books, journals and magazines that have their main content being related to issues of dieting and weight loss. The range of techniques and products that have been developed in response to weight loss are simply astounding. Some of these include the use of weight loss pills, meal replacement, weight loss programs, and weight loss groups that you can enroll in. The fact of the matter is that for whatever technique you adopt in order to lose your weight, you have to be immaculately self disciplined and prepared to work really hard. Any method that promises less than this is most likely a potential money losing opportunity. In view of the requirements that have been described above, many persons are unable to hold their own until they achieve their quest; many do drop off and go in search of the easiest ways out which are naturally unavailable. It is often said that the best things in life are free. In the case of how to lose excess weight this saying holds water. There are some easy techniques aimed at weight loss that you can adopt into your daily schedule. While these means don't promise the over hyped results associated with other products in the market they are among the most effective. The key towards their success is the need to keep matters as simple as possible. It is amazing how much the small details that we overlook can curtail our desired efforts. The two simplest ways to lose your weight and prevent a recurrence of the same are described here. The preliminary requirement in this case is to use our bodies to share some of this burden (weight loss) comfortzone. The body burns calories through its muscles and fats. The muscles are more adept at using up calories. If you can add your muscle mass then your body will be able to exhaust more calories resulting in increased metabolism. Get of from your comfort zone and start being active. Walk, jog, run, and climb stairs for a beginning. As you get fitter you can think of registering for body toning exercises including the Pilates option. The basic aim of doing so is to increase your muscle mass so that you can burn off more calories. Regulating the food that you eat is the second pillar of weight loss comfortzonebook. It is vital that we consider how healthy what we are eating is. For those persons who are capable of eating satisfactory meals daily it is prudent that they steer clear of excessive snacks in between meals. If one is able to cut down on the amount of snacks taken daily and have the ability to eat from a healthy diet the results of proper weight management will always be evident. Combining a regimen of healthy eating and regular body exercise is the surest and simplest way of losing excess weight. Current Mood: irritated (Comment on this)
9:47 am	Tips For Finding Some Great Friends procrastinating With todays convenience and technology, it is easy (and even tempting) to live your life with little to no human interaction. Many people are choosing this route, whether they experience social anxiety or they simply want to avoid being around annoying people. But as a result, people are more lonely and isolated than theyve ever been. This leads to feelings of worthlessness and depression. It is important for everyone to have friends. If you feel like you could use more friends, follow a few simple rules to start meeting people. First of all, you need to get outside of your comfort zone. The average person probably isn't 100% comfortable with going somewhere unfamiliar, or being friendly with a stranger. Ignore your feelings of inhibition. Sign up for a class for something that you've always been interested in. Talk to your classmates and get to know them this is how friendships naturally develop. This is just one example of many different situations you could put yourself in. You can go to the gym a few times a week, or volunteer to help at a homeless shelter. It doesnt matter what you do as long as you are around new people, and you are trying something new and adventurous. Sometimes it can seem like you dont click with anyone that you meet. Usually these feelings are caused by an inability to see outside of your own worldview. You should focus on breaking down this barrier, because it is extremely harmful to your social interactions. When you talk to someone, try to imagine what their life is like, and imagine how they must see the world. When you genuinely understand where a person is coming from, youll be much more likely to get along. comfortzone Ultimately, the only way to make friends is to get out of your chair, out of your house, and out of your comfort zone. Stop worrying, and start enjoying healthy relationships with your fellow humans. Current Mood: infuriated (Comment on this)
Sunday, December 25th, 2011
5:12 pm	Ways to spot you are lacking in Confidence Most people who lack confidence know they do but others people can tell too - just by observing you and watching your tell tale signs. If you know what you are doing to tell people you lack confidence then maybe you can work on changing that. Who knows the very act of changing what you do might lead to you feeling more confident. One of the best ways of gaining confidence is to take a deep breath and step outside your comfort zone. Let me know if this is helpful to you on the feedback. Do you tend to dominate the conversation trying to get reassurance from others that you have done or said the right thing Do you worry after you have been honest with someone that you might have hurt their feeling Do you worry about what they will think of you This often shows that you have a lack of confidences in your decision making or your own reactions. Confident people don't worry about things that they have no longer any control over. They speak a respectful and tactful truth as far as they can and believe that the honesty will be helpful to the other person. Are you concerned that people will judge you badly if you say something or do something that you think you are entitled to do/say but that is not what they want Like 'No I can't work late tonight. ' gets to be a long explanation of the reasons why you can't work. goal setting This often indicates that you have a lack of confidence in yourself and your judgement. Confident people know that a direct and honest answer given with respect is best . All the excuses and justification make both parties uncomfortable and awkward. Some people hide behind a false and over the top personailty. That can also include dressing in an extreme way or even wearing big glasses ... anything that take the attention away from the person underneath. this often shows that you have a lack of confidence in yourself and have to hide the real you. Do you feel the need to make sure that everyone likes and understands you. Do you jump to your own defense in the face of even minor criticism or questions. Do you act aggressively and make excuses to defend yourself This will sometimes show a lack of confidence in your own decisions and beahviour. A confident person knows that no-one is perfect and it is possible that they have made a mistake. They will be greatful that it has been pointed out so that they can do something about it. It they do not feel it justified they can calmly say that they respect the persons opinion but don't agree. A confident person realises that questions can be showing an interest and not challenging. Do you always rely on what your friend thinks about something before making a decision. Would you rather put things off than decide This can show a lack of confidence in self-trust. Do you feel that people are noticing you and making negative judgements about you. Do you find it difficult to start a conversation and prefer to blend into the background and be left alone This shows a lack of confidence and self-belief. People lacking in confidence often hold themselves in a very protective way, maybe with their shoulders hunched and their head hanging, arms folded, legs crossed., generally making themselves as compact as they can - Almost apologetically. This often shows a lack of confidence and a feeling of not being as good as others. Self-confidence is having enough trust in yourself to be sure that you can handle situations and tasks efficiently and effectively. It is knowing that you have the skills to approach someone socially and hold a conversation and also to know that you can meet challenges in the worksplace or at home knowing that you have the skills to deal with them. It's knowing that being yourself is good enough. Without it you miss out on an awful lot of opportunities and the fear of trying somethinhg new means you are living a life less than you deserve. Someone who lacks confidence has usually built up some compensating resource/s like stubbornness, defensiveness, acting the clown etc. and the lack of confidence does not always seems to be generalised, there will usually be something you are confident about. Confidence fluctuates with time. When things are going well you are likely to feel more conifident and equally when you have a problem or are under stress your confidence is likely to plummet. Current Mood: envious (Comment on this)
Friday, December 23rd, 2011
11:23 am	Increasing Comfort On Overseas Flights International travel is a way for you to step out of your comfort zone and visit a new, exciting, and unfamiliar place. However, there are many things that one must make sure of before and during their trip to ensure that they reach their destination safely and comfortably. Flying by plane can definitely be stressful, what with having to pack indefinitely for what you may need, getting through security when you reach the airport, and making all of your flights and connections on time. Those that are lucky enough to have the funds can take a privately chartered flight for ensured comfort; however, most individuals need to fly commercially. The first thing that you must do if you are contemplating visiting another country is to make sure that you have the means to travel legally, such as visas and a passport. It can take months after you have applied and sent in paperwork to actually receive and have the ability to use your passport. This means that you will probably have to apply at least six months beforehand, if you hope your travel to go smoothly. After this process has been completed, it will be necessary for you to browse flights. It is very important to schedule and reserve these early, just in case you run into any problems; doing so before reserving hotels or purchasing tickets for shows and performances will be vital. If you do not choose your travel first and far enough ahead of time, you could run into problems. If finding the least expensive means of travel is important to you, you can make use of discount sites that offer flights with various airlines and prices. One must be careful when purchasing through this method, however, because problems are more likely to arise with connections and cancellations. Generally, there is not much of a difference between the first-class and economy seats on a plane, except for more space and being paid closer attention to. However, on many international flights there are seats that convert into beds and much space and comfort within the first-class section. If you do not feel like this fits into your budget, then do not try to go overboard, but you may have an easier and more comfortable trip if you choose this method. On the day of your trip, make sure that you are ready and to the airport on time, at least two hours before the flight is scheduled to leave. This may seem overkill, but you will be so thankful that you showed up early if you run into any congestion or traffic on the way or crowds when you get them. Making it through international customs also takes more time initially than regular, in-country travel from state to state. If the trip is expected to take a long time, it will be a great idea to bring things along for sustenance and entertainment. Flying internationally usually includes in-flight meals, but you are bound to get hungry in between and want a snack. Packing your own lunch or dinner, as well as treats can help you avoid paying extra on food when you reach the airport. It will also be a great way to have satisfaction from hunger available at your fingertips when you need it. Sleeping on the flight will be necessary, so it may be a good idea to make or purchase a small travel-sized pillow comfortzonebook. Most airlines have them available for customers' use, but many feel better about utilizing their own. Those that are especially scared of flying may want to request drowsy medication from their doctor to be ingested when they are seated comfortably on the airplane. There are a number of different entertaining items that you can store in your carry-on, including books, music players, portable DVD players, magazines, or hand work like knitting and crocheting. Make sure to have a specific bag or backpack full of these items before you board. Layering is another great idea; airplanes tend to vary between hot and cold temperatures as they ascend and descend, so you may notice that your body temperatures changes frequently. Having removable layers will help you to stay warm and cool. Traveling internationally can be such a fulfilling experience; many feel that the long and, sometimes, uncomfortable airplane ride is worth the beautiful and thrilling experiences that they have in the country that they visit. Ensuring that you are comfortable may increase your likelihood to go somewhere else soon! Current Mood: frustrated (Comment on this)
Thursday, December 22nd, 2011
8:06 pm	Single Women Finding Their Intimate Comfort Zone In our society where people's behavior is in accordance with social acceptance, men are known to initiate physical intimacy most of the time. This is the reason why most women are not that comfortable in terms of communicating with their partner about their needs or fantasies. This shouldn't be the case because many women say that they need to be sexually satisfied as well in order to have a great and meaningful relationship. The primary foundation has to be that you are truly aware of your values and what you want in your intimate experiences. Once you have established this, the rest will be about your course of action. Many women say that they are most comfortable initiating intimacy in a romantic ambiance such as during or following dinner in a cozy restaurant or by just sitting and watching the sunset. stop procrastinating You can initiate intimacy in these circumstances by drinking a warm (or alcoholic) beverage on your couch together when you get home. Take a moment to connect by looking at him in the eye during those pauses in your conversation. For some situations, this could be all it takes. You could then reach out and touch him gently while talking in a subtle way. Eventually, you can follow this with a soft kiss on his cheek or lips. Pay attention to his responses. If you are seeking to have an intimate relationship, it is usually because there is some mutual affection, so he should respond to your attempts with interest. The best way to build and raise your comfort level is to always keep the conversation positive and light. Avoid such negative topics like having a bad day or complaints from boss and work. If your partner initiates such conversation, you can always make him stop by giving him a relaxing massage. You can start by rubbing his temples, and then the shoulder and back, remove his shirt, and massage his arms and thighs while keeping your touch as sensual as possible. Remember to talk to him while doing this. A good massage can also be a sleep inducer you know. Some women are not so comfortable when men talk about sex. Ladies, there's nothing really wrong with talking about sex with your partner. As a matter of fact, having that kind of conversation with your partner can make you closer and improve your sex life. When he comments on your physique, take it as a compliment. The only problem becomes when that is all he is talking about. For some women, receiving compliments from their partner serves as inspiration to try to look sexy sometimes. Initiate intimacy by wearing lingerie or anything that makes you super hot and sexy. Most single women know that men are very visual beings. Again, there's nothing wrong with showing your enthusiasm for sex. Tell him about your fantasies. Use your imagination. You can create different moods, fantasies or scenes in bed and try something different every time you have sex. You can also be assertive of what you want. Tell him what you would like him to do. Tell him about what turns you on. Don't worry about being rejected comfortzone. Men usually see this as a turn on so they easily oblige. Ask his fantasies in return and learn to oblige as well. You can tune in to what he loves and share it with him. Making an effort to raise your comfort level and initiating intimacy with your partner is not at all that difficult. Always think about this as a way to improve your relationship and your sex life as well. Realize that your loved one truly deserves your effort of constantly reinventing yourselves. It is a wonderful way to be happy together by learning to enjoy each other. Current Mood: dorky (Comment on this)